Test: Are You an Abuser or a Victim?
Every relationship requires balance, respect, and mutual support. But sometimes we overlook warning signs: control, manipulation, emotional pressure. This test will help you objectively assess the dynamics of your relationship and understand your role within it.
What you'll learn
Whether you tend toward control and domination
Whether there are signs of emotional pressure in your relationship
Whether you feel safe with your partner
How autonomous and independent you are in the relationship
How equal and healthy your relationship is
Key facts
History & development
Lenore Walker publishes 'The Battered Woman' — cycle of violence concept
Creation of the Duluth Model (Power and Control Wheel)
Evan Stark publishes 'Coercive Control' — new paradigm for understanding abuse
Coercive control becomes a criminal offense in the UK
About the methodology
The issue of relationship abuse has been studied by psychologists for over 40 years. The Duluth Model, developed in 1980s Minnesota, identifies key forms of partner violence: physical, emotional, economic, and sexual.
Evan Stark in 'Coercive Control' (2007) demonstrated that psychological abuse is often more destructive than physical violence. Lenore Walker's 'cycle of violence' concept (1979) described behavioral patterns of victims and aggressors.
This test analyzes five key relationship dimensions: boundary respect, emotional maturity, sense of safety, autonomy, and equality in the couple. Each dimension is grounded in validated psychological constructs from Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) research.
Frequently asked questions
What does this test measure?
The test analyzes five key relationship factors: respect for partner's boundaries, emotional maturity, sense of safety, autonomy, and equality in the couple. Based on these indicators, your role in the relationship is determined.
Is the test suitable for both men and women?
Yes, the test is completely gender-neutral. Abuse can come from any partner regardless of gender. Questions are formulated universally without gender bias.
How accurate are the results?
The test is based on validated psychological constructs from Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) research. However, it does not replace professional consultation and serves as a self-assessment tool.
What should I do if the results show problems?
If the test reveals concerning patterns, we recommend consulting a psychologist or contacting a domestic violence helpline. Recognizing the problem is the first step toward change.
How long does it take to complete?
The test takes about 7 minutes. It contains 30 questions, each rated on a scale from 1 to 5.
Instructions
Rate each statement from 1 (strongly disagree) to 5 (strongly agree). Answer honestly based on your real relationship. There are no right or wrong answers.
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